Thanks for that, I am sure you are right. I may of been a bit blaze about the who thing I feel. Its long and complicated and I am feeling a little frustrated. He fell out of a loft nearly 3 months ago now, he is getting better, hes walking and everything now and hes back at home. He's reluctant for me to see him in a weakened state so he is pushing me away, which is frustrating since I spent 2 months at his side in hospital. Its just making me grumpy because I miss spending time with him for the sake of make pride so little things are starting to niggle. I do love him, we will work it out, I probably just need to pull my head out of my arse a bit.
(besides the fact, that it is absolutely none of my business)...whenever I had a really strong argument with my partner - unmeasured on the scale of our usual disputes, there was the feeling that something broke. As if the bonding ties are beyond reparable.
If you feel the same, dump him. You are not your Mother's Mother. We don't live in the Jane Austen days were you had to 'stay' with somebody. Forgiveness is fine. But sticking with somebody that drags you down and does not understand you is the least thing you need, while you have to focus sortung out your life. There are more Graphic Designers out there, too.
People are afraid of being alone - without a partner. But clinging to somebody because it is at times comfortable is the wrong thing. You have to feel a positive passion about someone, without doubts, without even thinking about it...
(Sorry for being so personal, without even knowing you. But your reminded me of a very good friend of mine. She kept her relationship over 7 years with her boyfriend for the wrong reasons. I feel, nobody should do the same mistake).
Thanks for that, I am sure you are right. I may of been a bit blaze about the who thing I feel. Its long and complicated and I am feeling a little frustrated. He fell out of a loft nearly 3 months ago now, he is getting better, hes walking and everything now and hes back at home. He's reluctant for me to see him in a weakened state so he is pushing me away, which is frustrating since I spent 2 months at his side in hospital. Its just making me grumpy because I miss spending time with him for the sake of make pride so little things are starting to niggle. I do love him, we will work it out, I probably just need to pull my head out of my arse a bit.
misssteff about 4 years ago
(besides the fact, that it is absolutely none of my business)...whenever I had a really strong argument with my partner - unmeasured on the scale of our usual disputes, there was the feeling that something broke. As if the bonding ties are beyond reparable.
If you feel the same, dump him. You are not your Mother's Mother. We don't live in the Jane Austen days were you had to 'stay' with somebody. Forgiveness is fine. But sticking with somebody that drags you down and does not understand you is the least thing you need, while you have to focus sortung out your life. There are more Graphic Designers out there, too.
People are afraid of being alone - without a partner. But clinging to somebody because it is at times comfortable is the wrong thing. You have to feel a positive passion about someone, without doubts, without even thinking about it...
(Sorry for being so personal, without even knowing you. But your reminded me of a very good friend of mine. She kept her relationship over 7 years with her boyfriend for the wrong reasons. I feel, nobody should do the same mistake).
buckybit about 4 years ago