My heart goes out to you, on both fronts. My wife asked for a permanent separation a year ago on Monday & I know what it is like to lose the 'grand plan' & the love/support you thought would always be there. Then being in a relationship where you love the person but they don't want the same as you for the future must be heartbreaking. I could really here in your voice how much your are hurting. Hopefully things will improve for you, one way or another
Good boo. Been there, done that. One (lovely) son with first marriage which ended badly, now happy with girlfriend of 9 years and we have 3 children under 5. We've talked about marriage but it kinda feels that the kids are the strongest bond we will ever had. Not worth splitting up over methinks. Get all the other crap out of the way first anyway. x