@Dzakyem, I would say, Love is innate, we come from love. One does not have to Do anything to become love or get back to love, one just has to Be. To let love show. It is not the rightness or wrongness of a thing (which is defined by society and changes) it is where it came from.
Thanks @dzakyem, I read your thoughts, then a little while later read them again, then listened to your latest boo in the past hour, then listened to my boo again, but this time a little bit with your ears, I hope :) from your thinking, your perspective, at least somewhat.I feel as if we have shared supper this evening, a good dialogue, and I'm the better for it. Thank you.
I hate it when I have to disagree with people. But do I? Difficult to explain. I do not think that trying to be good helps a lot. As you said or implied in your boo, we are in a certain way because of habit, raising, awareness of our own standards, morality. On the contrary to you, what I do not want to do is: trying too much to be a good person. I will be happy not to be a bad person. Avoiding awful deeds is already good enough for me. The rest, like love, or any other positive, caring feelings are just there when they arise. They may well have egoistical, at least personal motivations. They are only there when the soil, the climate for them is propicious. Love cannot be forced. It's a kind of automatatism when we feel like it. Like art, like inspiration. Let it come when the time is ripe (if such is God's will, deists would say)!