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Introduction
My first day as a Product Manager, I had a brand new, pristine notebook, a list of 100 “urgent” requests from my new boss, and absolutely zero idea what to do first. I thought my job was to get features built. So, I spent my first three months heroically turning that “urgent” list into a neatly groomed backlog. I sprinted from meeting to meeting, taking notes, writing tickets, and promising updates. I spent my first six months wondering why my engineering team looked so tired, why none of our metrics were moving, and why, despite being the “hub” of all the activity, I felt like I was failing. Here’s the secret no one tells you about being a Product Manager: It is a trap.A good product management course teaches you frameworks to prioritise, communicate, and say “no” with confidence—skills you only realise you desperately need once you’re drowning in chaos.
You are given immense responsibility the “success of the product” but almost no direct authority. You cannot tell an engineer to code something. You cannot tell a marketer to launch a campaign. All you have is your influence. This ambiguity is a minefield. When we are new and trying to prove our worth, we overcompensate. We fall into traps, trying to be the “hero” who takes every request, the “boss” who dictates all the solutions, or the “people-pleaser” who just wants everyone to be happy.
This is not just another list of “Do nots.” This is the guide I wish I would have. We are going to walk through the 7 biggest traps you will face in your first year. For each one, we will look at why it is so easy to fall into, why it is so damaging, and the simple, practical steps you can take to climb back out.
1. The Mistake: The “Yes” Trap (Trying to Please Everyone)
Why It Happens
You are in a meeting. The Head of Sales pulls you aside afterward. “I just need one small feature,” she says, “It is not a big ask, and I can close our biggest deal of the quarter with it.” An hour later, the CEO messages you on Slack: “Had a shower-thought! What if we added a [insert brilliant, random feature here]?” You are new. You want to be helpful. You want to be seen as competent and collaborative. Saying “yes” feels good. It makes you the centre of the action. It avoids conflict. Saying “no” is scary. It feels like you are not a team player, like You are putting up a roadblock. “Yes” is the friendliest, easiest-to-use tool in your new toolbox.
Why It is a Problem
When you are a PM, “yes” is not just a word; it is a commitment. It is a promise to your stakeholder, and it is a redirect of your team’s finite, precious time. Here is the hard truth: When you say “yes” to everyone, you are saying “no” to having a clear strategy. Your product roadmap stops being a map and becomes a messy, incoherent laundry list. Your engineering team gets “whiplash,” jumping from one “urgent” task to another, never getting the time to build things properly or solve deep problems. Your product becomes a “Franken-product” a jumble of mismatched parts that serves no single customer well. You have said “yes” to so many small, individual features that You have effectively said “no” to achieving any single, meaningful goal. You are not leading the product; you are just reacting to the inbox.
How to Avoid It
Your job is not to please everyone; it is to deliver the most value for your customers and the business. This means you must protect your team’s focus.
- Find Your “North Star.” You cannot be the single source of “no.” You need backup. Your first job is to get your boss and key stakeholders to agree on the one thing that matters most this quarter. Is it “reducing customer churn by 5%”? Is it “increasing new user activation”? Get this written down. This is now your “North Star.”
- Learn to Say “Not Now.” You almost never have to say a flat “No.” When the CEO messages you with their idea, you do not say, “No, that’s a bad idea.” You say, “That’s a really interesting idea. Right now, our entire team is 100% focused on our goal of [Our North Star: reducing churn]. Can you help me understand how this idea helps us achieve that specific goal?” This is a magical question. It moves the conversation from “my opinion vs. your opinion” to “our shared goal.” Nine times out of ten, they will say, “Oh, it doesn’t. Let’s table it for next quarter.” You are not the bad guy; the strategy is the (helpful) bad guy.
- Create a Parking Lot. For all the other “good ideas” that come from Sales or Marketing, create a single, visible place for them. But do not just make a list. For every idea, require the person to answer two questions: “What problem does this solve?” and “How will we know if it is successful?” This simple step filters out 50% of the noise.
To really drive this home, I point to Richard Rumelt’s book, “Good Strategy/Bad Strategy.” He makes it clear: Good strategy is not a list of goals or a jumble of “to-dos.” It is a focused, pointed plan that involves making hard choices about what you are not going to do. As a PM, you are the chief defender of that focus.
2. The Mistake: The “I Am the User” Shortcut
Why It Happens
This one is insidious because it feels like you are doing your job. It is so much faster to sit in a meeting and say, “I think users will want this…” or “My gut feeling is that…” than to do the hard, slow work of finding and talking to actual users.
You are a user of many products, after all. You have opinions. You know what good design looks like. It is easy to anoint yourself “User Zero.” We give it a professional-sounding name “product intuition” but most of the time, it is just our personal preference. It is a shortcut.
Why It is a Problem
I am going to say this as clearly as I can: You are not your user.
The moment you joined the company; you became the least representative user of your product. You know the internal jargon, the “right” way to click through the menus, the bugs to avoid, and the features that are coming next quarter. A real user comes in cold, confused, and impatient.
When I was building a product based on my own assumptions, I was not solving real problems. I was just solving my problems. I was arguing about button colours (“I just think green feels more ‘go’!”) while real users were churning because they could not even find the checkout page. Building a product on your own opinions is like drawing a map of a city You have never visited. It is a fantasy, and it leads to a product that is perfectly designed for an audience of one: YOU!
How to Avoid It
- Get Out of the Building (or on a Zoom Call). I had to make a personal, non-negotiable rule: talk to at least two real users every single week. No exceptions. Even if it was just for 15 minutes. It is the most clarifying, ego-destroying, and valuable thing you can do.
- Become a “Support Ticket Detective.” Do not have time for interviews? Spend 30 minutes a day reading raw, unfiltered support tickets. Listen to the recordings of sales calls where a customer explains their problem. This is a direct IV-drip of your users’ pain, in their own words.
- Frame the Problem, Not the Solution. Before you or your team ever discuss a solution (e.g., “We need to build a new dashboard”), force everyone to agree on the problem statement. A good one looks like this: “Our new users aren’t completing the setup process, which is causing a 40% drop-off in the first three days.” This focuses the conversation on a real, measurable issue, not on your team’s favourite ideas.
For this, your bible is “The Mom Test” by Rob Fitzpatrick. It is a short, brilliant book that teaches you how to ask questions about your users’ lives and problems instead of asking them about your “great idea.” It trains you to hunt for facts, not compliments.
3. The Mistake: The “Feature Factory” (Acting Like a Project Manager)
Why It Happens
Shipping features feels so productive.
Moving that ticket on the Trello or Jira board from “In Progress” to “Done”… that’s a sweet, sweet dopamine hit. Stakeholders add to this pressure. They rarely ask, “What user problem did you solve this week?” They ask, “When will [my favourite feature] be ready?”
It is dangerously easy to fall into the role of a “backlog administrator” or a “timeline enforcer.” You spend your days writing tickets, “grooming” the backlog, and managing spreadsheets. It feels busy, it feels important, and it feels like you are in charge. You are running the feature factory, and business is booming.
Why It is a Problem
It took me a year to realize this, but my job was not to ship features. My job was to deliver outcomes. There’s a critical difference. A Project Manager is responsible for delivering a specific output (the feature) on time and on budget. That is a vital, difficult job. But a Product Manager is responsible for delivering a specific outcome (e.g., “increase user retention by 5%”). When I was just running the feature factory, I was celebrating the launch, not the impact. We would ship a big new feature, have a 15-minute launch party, and move straight to the next “urgent” thing. We never stopped to see if anyone used it, or if it solved the problem, we thought it would. We were just shipping code into a void.
How to Avoid It
- Fall in Love with the Problem, Not the Solution. I had to train my team (and myself) to constantly re-centre on the “Why.” We stopped saying, “We need to build a new ‘invite friends’ button.” We started saying, “We need to solve our slow user-growth problem.” That simple switch opened a dozen other possible solutions many of which were not a button.
- Measure Outcomes, Not Output. Your new success metric is not “features shipped” or “team velocity.” Your metric is “Did user retention go up?” or “Did support tickets on this topic go down?” Define this before you write a single line of code. If you can’t measure its impact, do not build it.
- Empower, do not Prescribe. My best-loved features were the ones I didn’t design. I learned to go to my engineers and designers with the problem and the context (“Users are getting lost here and dropping off. We think it is because of X. How can we fix this?”). Giving a smart, creative team a clear goal instead of a list of instructions is how you get magic.
The guiding light here is the “Jobs to Be Done” (JTBD) framework. The core idea, often tied to Clayton Christensen, is that users Do not “buy” a product; they “hire” it to do a job. My job was not to build a better drill bit; it was to understand why someone needed a quarter-inch hole in the first place.
4. The Mistake: The “Wall” (Ignoring Your Engineering Team)
Why It Happens
This was a big one for me. I’m a non-technical PM. My first few months, I was deeply intimidated by my engineering team. They were brilliant, and I was afraid of saying something stupid, slowing them down, or “losing” a technical debate.
So, I did what I thought was right: I tried to “protect” them. I would go into a cave for two days, write a perfect, 10-page “spec” document detailing exactly how a feature should work, and then “throw it over the wall” to the engineering lead. I treated the team like a feature factory: I put in an “order” (my spec), and I expected a feature to come out the other side.
Why It is a Problem
I was treating my single greatest resource for innovation like a room full of typists.
My engineers were not just “coders”; they were problem solvers. They knew the system, the technical debt, and the possibilities in a way I never could. By handing them a “solution” instead of a problem, I was causing three terrible things:
1. Bad Estimates: They could not give me an accurate timeline because they didn’t understand the why. They were just estimating my specific, often-clumsy solution.
2. Bad Morale: No one likes being a “ticket-taker.” They were resentful (rightfully so) because they were not being asked to use their brains, just their keyboards.
3. Bad Products: They were forced to build the solution I wrote down, not the real solution. I cannot count the number of times an engineer later told me, “You know, if you had just told me the problem, I could have built a solution in two days, but the way you asked for it took us two months.”
How to Avoid It
1. Bring Them In Early and Often. This was the game-changer. I started inviting an engineer (not the lead, a different one each time) to my user interviews. I’d put a prototype in front of them and ask, “How would you solve this?” Their brains see different things. They would often spot a 10x simpler, more elegant solution that I had completely missed.
2. Ask for “T-Shirt Sizes,” Not Estimates. Before I ever promised a feature to a stakeholder, I would go to my engineering lead. I would say, “Here is the problem we’re trying to solve. My first guess at a solution is this. Is that a Small, Medium, Large, or X-Large project?” This is not a commitment; it is a “sniff test.” It saved me from accidentally promising a six-month monster.
3. Be Their “Umbrella.” I learned that my job was to build trust. I became their shield. I protected them from random stakeholder requests, “drive-by” priorities, and pointless meetings. I filtered the noise so they could focus. In return, they trusted me with their expertise and helped me find the best path forward.
Look up Marty Cagan’s “Inspired” and his concept of “missionaries vs. mercenaries.” Mercenaries are paid to build what you tell them. Missionaries are given a mission and are empowered to figure out the best way to win. I learned that my job was to build a team of missionaries.
5. The Mistake: Being “Data-Driven” Instead of “Data-Informed”
Why It Happens
In your first few months, you will hear the phrase “we need to be more data-driven” at least a dozen times. “Data” becomes your shield. When you are in a high stakes meeting with an executive, “The data says…” is the most powerful sentence you can use to defend your ideas.
This pressure creates two kinds of PMs. The first is the “Metric Chaser,” who finds one metric (like “button clicks”) and optimizes it to death, even if it makes the user experience worse. The second is the “Analysis Paralysis” PM, who is so terrified of making a move without a perfect, 99% confidence-level A/B test that they never make a move at all.
Why It is a Problem
Being “data-driven” sounds good, but it means you have let the data take the driver’s seat. The data is only good at telling you what happened in the past. It can’t tell you why it happened, and it absolutely cannot tell you what big, innovative idea you should build next.
You cannot A/B test your way to a revolutionary new product. You can A/B test the colour of a button from blue to green and get a 2% lift, but you will never invent the next big thing by only looking at your existing dashboards. I’ve seen teams spend a whole quarter optimizing a single page for a 1.5% conversion lift, all while a competitor was busy solving the customer’s real problem and making that entire page obsolete.
How to Avoid It
1. Be “Data-Informed,” Not “Data-Driven.” This is a crucial shift. You Do not use data to replace your judgment; you use it to inform your judgment.
2. Combine the “What” and the “Why.” This is the magic formula.
Ø Quantitative Data (The “What”): Use your analytics dashboards to find where the problem is. (e.g., “I see that 70% of our users are dropping off on the checkout page.”)
Ø Qualitative Data (The “Why”): Use user interviews, support tickets, and session recordings to find out why it is happening. (e.g., “Ah, I see from watching five user videos that they all think the ‘promo code’ box is required and they’re leaving to go search for a code.”)
3. Triangulate Your Data. Do not rely on just one number. When your analytics (what people do), your user feedback (what people say), and your team’s intuition (what you feel) all point in the same direction, you are on to something.
Many product thought leaders, like those at Product Focus, champion this mindset. The goal is not to be a “data-scientist” (that is a separate, valuable job). The goal is to be a “detective” who uses all the clues quantitative, qualitative, and intuitive to find the truth.
6. The Mistake: The “Big Bang” (Chasing a Perfect Launch)
Why It Happens
Fear. Pure and simple. You are afraid of being wrong. You are afraid of launching something “buggy.” You are afraid your stakeholders will look at the small, simple thing you built in two weeks and say, “That is it? That is all You have been doing?”
It feels much, much safer to stay in the cave. You add “just one more feature.” You “just need to polish” the interface one more time. You are chasing a “big bang” launch, a “ta-da!” moment where you can finally reveal your perfect, flawless creation to the world.
Why It is a Problem
The longer you wait to launch, the more you increase your risk. Your “perfect” product is based on assumptions you made six months ago. By the time you launch it, the market may have moved, your competitor may have shipped, or worst of all you may discover that your core assumption was wrong all along.
The single biggest risk in product management is not launching a bug. The biggest risk is building a perfect, bug-free product that nobody wants. I spent the first four months of my career building my “masterpiece.” When we finally launched it, a grand total of 12 people used it. It was a perfect, beautiful, well-coded failure.
How to Avoid It
1. Redefine Your “MVP.” An MVP (Minimum Viable Product) is not a “worse version” of your final product. It is the smallest possible thing you can build to test your biggest, scariest assumption. Is your assumption “People will pay for this?” Your MVP is not the whole app; it might be a simple landing page with a “Buy Now” button to see if anyone even clicks it.
2. Reframe “Failure.” A “failed” experiment that took you two weeks and taught you something invaluable is a massive success. It is a success because it just saved you the next six months of building the wrong thing.
3. Ship to Learn, Not to Launch. Change your team’s mindset. The goal of the first release isn’t to get 10,000 users. The goal is to get 10 users and find out if you are even on the right track.
This is the foundational concept of “The Lean Startup” by Eric Ries. His “Build-Measure-Learn” feedback loop is the antidote to the “Big Bang” launch. You build the smallest thing possible, you measure how users react, and you learn from it to decide what to do next.
7. The Mistake: The “To-Do List” Roadmap
Why It Happens
Your stakeholders crave certainty. They have budgets to plan, sales teams to train, and bosses to report to. The most common question you will ever hear is, “What are we getting, and when?”
It is incredibly tempting to give them exactly what they want: a beautiful, colourful Gantt chart that lists features and dates for the next 12 months. “In Q1, we get the dashboard. In Q2, the admin panel. In Q3, the user-invite system…” Everyone in the meeting nods and feels secure. You look like you have a plan.
Why It is a Problem
That feature-based roadmap is a lie. It is a promise that you will almost certainly break.
The moment you learn something new from a user interview, a competitor’s move, or a failed experiment your roadmap is obsolete. But because you promised “the dashboard in Q1,” you are now locked in. You have given up your single greatest superpower: the ability to be agile and react to new information.
You are no longer a Product Manager. You are a Project Manager for a year-long waterfall project, and your job is to deliver a list of features, even if you now know they’re the wrong ones.
How to Avoid It
1. Create an “Outcome-Based” Roadmap. This is the most important shift you can make. Your roadmap shouldn’t list features (the “what”). It should list the outcomes you are trying to drive (the “why”).
2. Use Themes. Instead of “Q1: Build dashboard,” your Q1 theme is: “Improve New User Activation.” This is a goal, not a feature. This gives your team the flexibility to find the best solution, which might be a better onboarding flow, or clearer emails, or… maybe… a small part of a dashboard.
3. Use “Now, Next, Later.” This is how you communicate timelines to stakeholders.
- Now: What we are actively building this month. (High confidence, specific features).
- Next: What problems we are tackling this quarter. (Medium confidence, theme-focused).
- Later: What strategic areas we are exploring for the future. (Low confidence, no dates).
This approach is championed by countless product leaders, including Gibson Biddle (former VP of Product at Netflix). It shifts the conversation from “Are we on schedule?” to “Are we solving the problem?”
Conclusion: The Job Isn’t to Be Right; It is to Find Out
Looking back, all seven of these mistakes were born from the same place: I was trying to find a shortcut.
It is a shortcut to say “yes” instead of having a hard conversation about strategy. It is a shortcut to guess what users want instead of doing the hard work of listening. It is a shortcut to measure “features shipped” because it is easier than measuring “problems solved.”
Your journey from a new PM to a great PM isn’t about avoiding mistakes. You will make all of these. I still do, sometimes. The journey is about learning to recover from them faster and faster.
Your job isn’t to be a “feature-building machine” or the “CEO of the Product.” Your job is to be the chief listener for your team. It is to be the most curious person in the room, relentlessly asking “Why?” and “How do we know?” Your job is to protect your team’s focus and to create a safe-to-fail environment where you can all find the answers together.
Embrace the ambiguity. Get comfortable with saying, “I do not know, but here’s how I’ll find out.” And if you’re stepping into the future of this role, an AI for Product Management course can help you learn how to use AI as a partner in discovery, not a shortcut.
